Beautiful Pains

It’s been a little over seven months since I married the love of my life. So far I have vomited profusely, cried sporadically, gained thirty pounds and countless stretchmarks. Yayy. In case you haven’t guessed it – I’m pregnant.

Let me just start by saying how this time has elapsed nothing like I thought it would, I had every intention of being a blend of Martha Stewart, Claire Huxtable and a stripper. Unfortunately, nausea and fatigue made it very difficult do be the non-stop cooking, cleaning, sex vixen of perfection I wanted to be for my husband. Instead, I had these symptoms that under any other circumstance would indicate I am dying but in pregnancy they’re described as normal and I couldn’t see anything other than all that I was now incapable of doing the way I once did. As usual, Holy Spirit slips a lesson into this season of my life and as usual; I am going to share it with you beautiful people.

Here’s how it happened:

I was in bed one day, lamenting over the pelvic pain and swollen feet I had now become accustomed to. I was scrolling aimlessly through old photos and looked at one of my 9 year old daughter, I began to think back on all that I was facing during my first pregnancy with her. Truth be told, it was a terrible time but when she came – none of it even mattered at all.

There was never a day I resented my daughter because of what I experienced during the process of having her. It was painful, but the outcome was breathtaking. Looking at her gorgeous little face brings me nothing but joy. The pain of the process never supersedes the beauty of the promise. In that moment it hit me, that I wasn’t just aching, I was creating! My body itself is being used to produce a new living person the world has never seen and doesn’t know it needs yet. I am pregnant with a promise that when all I see are symptoms, God sees the outcome! Enduring these beautiful pains, allows the earth to roar with new possibilities and endless creativity.

You may not be physically pregnant like I am, but we all possess something unseen that the world doesn’t know it needs yet. What if Einstein stopped because of the pain of failure? What if Martin Luther King Jr. stopped because it was dangerous? What if Oprah stopped because she was rejected? What if Yeshuah stopped because 39 lashes hurt too much?

You will never know how much the world needs whats in you until you endure those beautiful pains and PUSH!!!!

Until next time,

Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing!

 

 

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Transition – What is it? How do I recognize it? How do I deal?

Meaning:

a change from one form or type to another, or the process by which this happens: (dictionary.cambridge.org)

the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another. (google search)

Hebrew words for transition:

  1. The first word for transition is ma’avar, which means to “cross over,” to “pass through” (as in a land or city) or even to overflow (cf. Isaiah 23:10, who speaks of passing through a land “as a stream”) In the word, ma’avar, I see the word, me-avar or “from the past.” We are nurtured by our past relationships with communities, and by their pasts which become a part of us
  2. shinui, which literally means “change
  3. chiluf, which means to “move on” in the way that the grasses sprout anew after the old sproutings have dried up and passed away.

 

Signs you’re in transition:

  • Relationship changes (breakups and broken friendships/betrayal)
  • Spiritual attack & mind battles, usually marked with thoughts of inadequacy and fear
  • Lack of interest in daily activities
  • Possible depression, mood swings & irritability
  • The feeling that there is just “something missing”
  • This nagging awareness that there is just something more

PHASE 1: EARLY (LATENT) LABOR/THe process

The first of the three stages of labor is usually the longest, but (thankfully) it’s also the least intense, by far.

During this phase, we experience sporadic periods of discomfort.

Spiritually, this can manifest itself in bouts of emotional strain and exhaustion. Because the process is not necessarily swift, it will require great adjustment and spiritual awareness. Understanding that you are in a season of transition is vital, with that knowledge you are now equipped to do the most difficult thing this process requires – wait. As with a natural pregnancy, you are  expected to wait in anticipation that something will be birthed from your process. That is the faith God wants us to have in Him, so that in our waiting there is preparation for the promise!

PHASE 2: ACTIVE LABOR

You’ll usually be in the hospital or birthing center by this phase (or if you’re delivering at home, your midwife should be with you by now).

Active labor is sometimes excruciatingly painful. Both in the natural and in the spirit, this phase is preparing you for the release that is coming. You are adjusting and getting into position to ensure that your next phase goes well. You are being stretched to capacity so that safe passage of what you are carrying is ensured and you give birth to the promise you have awaited for so long!

PHASE 3: TRANSITIONAL (ADVANCED) LABOR

During transitional labor — the last, most intensive phases of labor —fortunately, it’s also the shortest.

GET IT OUT!!! The urgency of this phase is incomparable at any other state of the process – it’s time to release! You have nurtured, prepared and positioned yourself for the release of what’s in you. Then, and only then are you able to PUSH your destiny out!

How do I not go crazy during a season of transition?

  • Don’t be afraid: Joshua 1:9 ESV Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Don’t doubt in the dark, what God told you in the light: Ecclesiastes 7:8-11 ESV Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit. Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. Say not, “Why were the former days better than these?” For it is not from wisdom that you ask this. Wisdom is good with an inheritance, an advantage to those who see the sun.

  • Don’t try to guess your way through: Proverbs 3:5 ESV Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
  • The work was prepared before you were: Ephesians 2:10ESV For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them
  • Stay confident! God wants it more than you: 1 John 5:14ESV And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.

It’s not about you: 2 Corinthians 1:4-9 ESV Who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself.

Discouraged?

Life sucks sometimes. God is amazing and His plans for us are always good but somewhere between the promise and the manifestation… life sucks for a minute.

I don’t want to live a life of obligatory service to the amazing God who has saved, delivered and loved me into being a better version of myself.

I don’t want the people depending on me to be the reason I succeed or move forward. I don’t want my passion to be fueled by the pressure of living up to anyone’s idea of what my life should look like. I want the one who gave me this life, to take it and do what He sees fit – even when I don’t understand because that’s what trusting Him means. It means I don’t get to always know how close I am to things changing, I probably won’t know how and I shouldn’t need to… but here are some truths I have to face:

  1. Sometimes, pursuing purpose is as enjoyable as watching paint dry, because somewhere along the way I forgot it’s all about God and made it about doing stuff.
  2. God’s plans, outweigh my agenda.
  3. Just because it isn’t easy, doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be done.
  4. Satan is a liar, any opportunity to trick me into believing I’m nothing or that I am failing when I am in God’s will – gives him power over me he wouldn’t otherwise have.
  5. God always wins, so it kinda makes sense to leave it up to Him.

Here are some scriptures on discouragement that may help. You’re not the first, and probably won’t be the last to feel discouraged. Sometimes it feels like you’re losing when you’re doing what God asks, you feel trampled on, overlooked and forgotten but… defeat is an illusion. Serving God automatically makes you a winner. Sometimes following the call of God feels like a burden we just cannot carry, mainly because we shouldn’t be the ones carrying it. Let God do His job. Have faith, be obedient and don’t give up.

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Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

2 Corinthians 12:9

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Joshua 1:9

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

John 16:33

I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

 

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