Why are you afraid to soar? 

This morning, a friend reminded me of my very favorite quote by Marianne Williamson. 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. “

I was afraid to soar when those around me were walking. 

Today, I have a bit of advice for you as well as for myself. Aren’t you tired of shrinking when you were born to soar? We have all been at that place of feeling intimidated by our dreams. Don’t you think it’s time to soar? You do? Great! 

1. Don’t apologize for wanting more! 

2. Pray, plan, prepare, persist… in that order! 

3. Don’t give up! 

This week, just begin to contemplate how you want to improve your life and create a list. I’ll elaborate on the 3 points next week to give a little more clarity. 

Until next time;

Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing! 

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Transition – What is it? How do I recognize it? How do I deal?

Meaning:

a change from one form or type to another, or the process by which this happens: (dictionary.cambridge.org)

the process or a period of changing from one state or condition to another. (google search)

Hebrew words for transition:

  1. The first word for transition is ma’avar, which means to “cross over,” to “pass through” (as in a land or city) or even to overflow (cf. Isaiah 23:10, who speaks of passing through a land “as a stream”) In the word, ma’avar, I see the word, me-avar or “from the past.” We are nurtured by our past relationships with communities, and by their pasts which become a part of us
  2. shinui, which literally means “change
  3. chiluf, which means to “move on” in the way that the grasses sprout anew after the old sproutings have dried up and passed away.

 

Signs you’re in transition:

  • Relationship changes (breakups and broken friendships/betrayal)
  • Spiritual attack & mind battles, usually marked with thoughts of inadequacy and fear
  • Lack of interest in daily activities
  • Possible depression, mood swings & irritability
  • The feeling that there is just “something missing”
  • This nagging awareness that there is just something more

PHASE 1: EARLY (LATENT) LABOR/THe process

The first of the three stages of labor is usually the longest, but (thankfully) it’s also the least intense, by far.

During this phase, we experience sporadic periods of discomfort.

Spiritually, this can manifest itself in bouts of emotional strain and exhaustion. Because the process is not necessarily swift, it will require great adjustment and spiritual awareness. Understanding that you are in a season of transition is vital, with that knowledge you are now equipped to do the most difficult thing this process requires – wait. As with a natural pregnancy, you are  expected to wait in anticipation that something will be birthed from your process. That is the faith God wants us to have in Him, so that in our waiting there is preparation for the promise!

PHASE 2: ACTIVE LABOR

You’ll usually be in the hospital or birthing center by this phase (or if you’re delivering at home, your midwife should be with you by now).

Active labor is sometimes excruciatingly painful. Both in the natural and in the spirit, this phase is preparing you for the release that is coming. You are adjusting and getting into position to ensure that your next phase goes well. You are being stretched to capacity so that safe passage of what you are carrying is ensured and you give birth to the promise you have awaited for so long!

PHASE 3: TRANSITIONAL (ADVANCED) LABOR

During transitional labor — the last, most intensive phases of labor —fortunately, it’s also the shortest.

GET IT OUT!!! The urgency of this phase is incomparable at any other state of the process – it’s time to release! You have nurtured, prepared and positioned yourself for the release of what’s in you. Then, and only then are you able to PUSH your destiny out!

How do I not go crazy during a season of transition?

  • Don’t be afraid: Joshua 1:9 ESV Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Don’t doubt in the dark, what God told you in the light: Ecclesiastes 7:8-11 ESV Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit. Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. Say not, “Why were the former days better than these?” For it is not from wisdom that you ask this. Wisdom is good with an inheritance, an advantage to those who see the sun.

  • Don’t try to guess your way through: Proverbs 3:5 ESV Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.
  • The work was prepared before you were: Ephesians 2:10ESV For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them
  • Stay confident! God wants it more than you: 1 John 5:14ESV And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us.

It’s not about you: 2 Corinthians 1:4-9 ESV Who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself.

In case you need a reminder! 

We are liberated from fear, we are destined to conquer mountains that have stifled our ancestors. We are powerful beyond our own understanding and lovely beyond our own perception. 

The very thought of us, pushed God into action to create that masterpiece you are for the purpose HE pre-established. 

You are a light that directs those who view you back to your creator. Whether or not you decide to shine is entirely up to you!

Live a little, love a lot, be a blessing! 

– Shakeisha M. 

Here’s why you’re not healed…

You don’t want to be.

Now before you go on explaining how hard it it and how many times you’ve tried, I get it. But I also get that you’ve stopped trying. You’ve grown so attached to your hurt, you believe it to be a part of who you are. It’s not. 

Just because you don’t acknowled your pain, just because you don’t show it the way another person might – doesn’t render it nonexistent!

You’re not healed from that breakup, that let-down, that broken friendship, the neglect from that parent, that abusive relationship. You’re not healed because you’ve decided to bury it, rather than expose it to the light that casts the darkness out of our hearts. Jesus is that light. 

Will you do me a favor and at least admit that your hurting? Admit that you’re holding onto broken memories and relationships because I’m your mind; feeling that pain is so much easier than the pain you feel when you’re alone? Will you admit that you don’t even feel like you deserve healing? 

Admit it to yourself. Pray on it. If you need a listening ear, contact me. I guarantee the only other soul I’ll speak to about it is the Lord, I want to help you move from that broken place. 

Send me a message at crossmyheartministry2014@gmail.com and let’s start moving toward your healing!  

 

I can’t take all the pressure…

I’m so afraid to fall. Sometimes I get petrified at the very thought of dropping the ball, of not being what I’m expected to be. After all, I’m responsible for those that look at me as a representation of Christ right? I think Pressure by Jonathan McReynolds hit the nail om the head for me – I’ve been listening all morning.

Lord I need you to relieve the pressure, not just from me but for every person that is earnestly seeking to please you. Help us not to allow the voice of others to dictate who we should be. Help us not to believe the lie that there is just one way to follow you. Help us to be who we are, help us to please you by being us and not a cookie-cutter replica of a good Christian.

I don’t know when it happened, I don’t know how but somehow I lost sight of the fact that it is you alone that I aim to please. Everyday I am constantly reminded of the expectations that I may not always live up to, of the way I should look or act to be accepted. Help me to remember that you have already approved me Lord. Remind us Lord that it is your power and not our own righteousness or works that sustains us and the work you have begun in us.

But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of power may be of God and not of us.                – 2 Corinthians 5:7


Let us pray:

Holy and omnipotent God, lover of our soul. Bring us back to you, reconcile our motives and hearts back to you, back to the place where you are our influence and our standard. God relieve the pressure and stress of living up to expectations that did not come from you. Help us to differentiate between your standard and their opinion. God you matter, you alone matter. Give us your heart. Glory be to your name Lord, we receive your peace in this moment and declare it for the entire body of Christ!

In Jesus’ majestic and powerful name, amen.

The other daughter…

I’m the other daughter. I’m the one that didn’t happen to be born in the cocoon of a happy marriage as my other siblings and I underwent a much more complex developmental process.

I’m the “awkward situation” we dare not discuss, subject to statements like “Oh I didn’t know he had a daughter this old”. When they said the first would be last, I didn’t think this was what they meant. I felt last, out of place, insignificant and like an inconvenience my parents should have avoided.

I was wrong.

I had based my entire sense of self worth on this ideal of my father when I was younger, so when I met him… Reality paled in comparison. I’m thinking I had watched “Annie” one too many times and expected him to fall in love with me instantly then break into a rendition of ‘tomorrow, tomorrow, I love ya tomorrow, you’re only a day away’! Unfortunately that didn’t happen, but it would have been cool wouldn’t it?

I can give you statistics and I can divulge a slew of information regarding how many of us are “the other daughter” but it wouldn’t be very helpful. We don’t need statistics to show us what we experience everyday. Numbers just don’t matter when something is hurting you, statistics can’t calculate the pain of feeling rejected.

Here’s the bright side….
You don’t need anyone to value you, for you to be valuable.

When you serve the Lord and you surrender your heart to Him, there’s a peace that overtakes you that people can’t understand. Every pain you’ve felt, begins to have a purpose. You’re not defined by your past or your pain because of His promises.

Nobody, not even your parents have the right to devalue you either by word or deed. God already esteemed you and called you blessed! You were woven in purpose and are a testament of his love for humanity, because now the pain you’ve endured has made you so strong that you love so fearlessly… You change the world around you!

I’m the other daughter, a woman of purpose power and strength. I was predestined by God to be used as an instrument of His love, to share my story and impact the lives of broken women.

I am strong.
I am healed.
I am whole.

Who are you?

99 cent love

His love was cheap
Like a bright red sign that alluded to a great purchase only to leave you with a knockoff version of what you truly wanted
He spoke of a love that he couldn’t show
It was tender, caring and deceptive
It was a love that lent it’s kindness to a soul in need, but never rooted deep enough or long enough to spring forth new life
He gave me that 99 cent love
Just shy of a dollar and worth much less
I sought it with fervor and he dangled the misconception before me like that little black dress on the clearance rack that was just one size too small!
Stuck with the decision of leaving “good enough” behind never knowing if the perfect fit was out there
He gave that 99 cent love
Just shy of a dollar but worth much less
Good enough just wasn’t good enough for her anymore
She wanted the perfect fit.

So you think you’re the one?! (Day 37 – 100 Days of Singleness)

Most people LOVE the chase… A person will pursue you to the ends of the earth just for the thrill of the chase.

We have to be careful not to mistake persistence with destiny. Not everyone that desires you, deserves you.

A man that isn’t led by God should not be expected to lead you. A mate that serves God should be one thing you do not compromise on.
There will be LOTS of potential spouses that claim to be sent by God… Lots. God will give you the spirit of discernment and for the most part you can rely on your intuition.

God will not send a spouse that pulls you away from Him.

The problem is most people want a spouse that’s godly enough to be faithful to them but not godly enough to be faithful to God by remaining pure.

So. They think they’re the one huh? Pull back and observe until God gives you confirmation, you’ll be surprised at what the Spirit shows you about a seemingly great potential spouse.

Keep seeking God, let whoever is trying to get to you… Go through Him!

Love a little. Love a lot. Be a blessing!
– Shakeisha M.

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No more locked doors!!! – Pursuing Purity (Day 26 – 100 Days of Singleness)

I know he/ she is no good for me but…

Stop right there! Anything that follows this phrase is a sorry excuse of a reason to stay and you know it.

I know as the song says, “he ain’t no good but it feels so good”. I know and have experienced the pleasure of sin, so for all of us that have; let’s take a look at this:
Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 NASB)

This is the first we have addressed sexual immorality, only because establishing relationship with God was paramount and of utmost importance. A part of committing to God is relinquishing our former ways that are displeasing to our savior.

We are connected to those we allow into our bodies, it’s more than a physical exchange of pleasure … It’s a spiritual fusing of spirits that was designated for marriage. We have to commit to purity, to living up to the standard of Christ. It doesn’t matter if you’ve had 1 or 1,000 partners! All that matters is repentance and seeking God’s deliverance from the sin itself and from those our souls are tied to! Sexual sins go against God and our own bodies and no matter how the media may portray it as some frivolous act, it’s not! It’s not to be taken lightly and we aren’t to be taking part in it outside of marriage.

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own?

Do you not know???

We cannot give our spirit to God and our bodies to the world. It won’t work.

We declare release from immorality! We come against the lust of this flesh and heed to the spirit of God and we WILL answer God’s call to holiness and be sustained by His Holy Spirit. We declare freedom! We declare holiness! In the name of Jesus!!!

God be with you always my loves and until next time;

Live a little, love a lot & be a blessing
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